Bedtime delays, 3am callouts, tactical naps.
Issued: 2023-05-01 • Last reviewed: 2024-09-18 • Revision 1.1
Notes compiled from repeated incidents. Not advice. Just… patterns.
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Why toddlers wake up at 3am and won't go back to sleep
They wake up for three reasons. Bad dream, water, or they’ve thought of something and need to tell you. Only the first one needs a proper response.
No big lights. No chat. Water. Back to bed.
No big lights. No chat. Water if they ask. Back to bed. You’re not their friend right now, you’re logistics.
Bedtime delay tactics and how to stick to a cutoff
One more story. One more drink. Wee. Hug. Question about why the sky is blue. They’ve got a list and they’re working through it.
Give a clear cutoff and then stick to it. If you give in once, the list gets longer next time.
"Why do I have to go to bed?" doesn’t have an answer that works. Just say because. Repeat until they’re asleep or you are.
Why "one more episode" is never one
One more episode is never one. Set a timer. When it goes off, that’s it. The timer is the bad guy, not you.
If you’ve said "this is the last one" more than once, you’ve already lost. Just turn it off.
When they say "I'm not tired" at bedtime
They are tired. They are always tired. They’re just not ready to stop.
Put them in bed anyway. They’ll be out in eight minutes. Don’t say I told you so. Well. You can think it.
The car nap transfer — one shot to move them without waking
You have one shot to move them from car seat to bed without a full reboot.
Keys ready, lights low, no chatting in the hallway. If they blink, abort.
Sock complaints at 3am — fix it and leave
At three in the morning the sock is too twisty, too warm, too something.
Fix it in ten seconds, then leave. Don’t open a debate about sock feelings.
The sudden hydration request at lights out
They were fine all evening. Now, at lights out, they are apparently dust.
Small sip, no refills, no bedside TED Talk. Water is not a new activity.
When they migrate into your bed at night
At some point they migrate into your bed and you end up on twelve centimetres of mattress.
Pick a rule: escort them back, or surrender the territory. Half-rules don’t work.
The wrong blanket at 10pm — swap it, don't argue
Someone will insist the wrong blanket is on the bed. At 10pm. It’s the same blanket.
Swap it. Don’t argue. The blanket is not the hill.
Standing in the dark listening for breathing
You’ll stand in the dark outside their room listening for breathing. We all do it.
One creak and you freeze. They’re fine. You’re not. Go to bed.
The rare quiet morning — don't move in case it breaks
The rare quiet morning. Coffee. Nobody calling your name.
You don’t move in case it breaks.
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